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  • Writer's pictureMickey Carolan

The Day I Realized Time is Undefeated

Updated: 5 days ago

Good Morning My Friends!

Let's talk about time. That relentless, ever-marching force that none of us can escape.

Last week, I tossed this question out on LinkedIn: "How old were you when you REALLY realized that time was undefeated?"  The responses were fascinating.  

For me, that moment of brutal clarity arrived during a particularly emotional walk. It was 2021, and the world still felt raw and jagged from the loss of my father and nearing my 40th birthday. Walking became my therapy – a desperate attempt to process the grief with each step.  I threw my earbuds in, cranked up music from Eric Church, and walked. 

Oftentimes tears flowed freely. Honestly, I didn't care who saw me. Walking, music, and remembering were what I needed at that moment.

The realization wasn't a gentle nudge; more like an ice bucket challenge of reality. I was it. The "next man up" in the family lineage. No older male figures stood before me in the direct bloodline.  A wave of urgency washed over me, a stark awareness of my own mortality pressing down on me. 

That's the day time transformed from a neutral concept to an undefeated opponent.

Since then, my relationship with time has undergone a major shift. I take it seriously now, fiercely protective of those precious moments that slip through our fingers like grains of sand. It's a constant battle, this fight against the inevitable, but one I'm determined to wage with intention and purpose.

Now, don't get me wrong. There are still days when I get caught up in the daily grind, the endless to-do list that stretches on forever.  But that moment on my walk, that brutal awakening, serves as a constant reminder. It forces me to take a step back, to re-evaluate my priorities.

It's a daily conversation, this negotiation with time. Some days, I win.  Other days, time remains undefeated. But the important thing is that I'm aware that I'm present. 

Because in the end, the only moments we truly own are the ones we're living right now. And that, my friends, is a fight worth waging.

P.S. Call Your Mom or Dad right now if you're fortunate enough to still have them around.


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