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  • Writer's pictureMickey Carolan

Softball was His Equalizer

Good Morning My Friends,

We hit 60 degrees this past Monday and the timing was great for my daughter's first softball practice of the season. With the season upon us I thought it would be a great time to share a little bit about how softball was my father's equalizer.

Softball was His Equalizer is chapter seventeen in Mom Dad Not Hear.

Here is an excerpt from that chapter:

Hall of Famer Hank Aaron was one of the greatest hitters of all time. I think “The Hammer” would have liked my father. He once said, “In playing ball, and in life, a person occasionally gets the opportunity to do something great. When that time comes, only two things matter: being prepared to seize the moment and having the courage to take your best swing.”
My father never lacked the courage to swing for the fence.
Although he was Deaf, there was no communication barrier for him on the softball diamond. His skill and results spoke for him. When I saw my father on the field and witnessed the way other players treated him, I realized that softball was his equalizer. On the diamond, his disability meant nothing. He cherished that time on the field, and in that venue, he wasn’t different. He was treated like every other teammate—respected, loved, appreciated, and celebrated! He was equal.

My question to you: What is YOUR Equalizer?

One of the definitions of an equalizer is something that makes things or people equal, putting them on a level playing field. Softball was my father’s greatest equalizer, but his prowess as an athlete made almost any sport an equalizer for him.

Each of us has multiple equalizers that play a role in our lives. Equalizers help to bring context to our lives. There are many equalizers in our lives.


Mark Twain is attributed with having written the following, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the things you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. . . Explore. Dream.”

Today, look for connections with the people around you. Seek out equalizers that unite you with them. Think about where you feel most “at home,” and then build a group who can celebrate that feeling with you on your special “home plate.”


Book Recommendations this week!

We'll stick with the baseball-themed books!

P.S. If you haven't left a review on my book Mom Dad Not Hear - could you do so? I'd really appreciate it!


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